Anyone who reads my blog knows I have a disdain for Hollywood. I really do. And I am not going to trash on the tragic death of this father, son and friend. But what troubles me is the question of, why? I know why. People ask the question why would someone with it "all" choose to live a destructive lifestyle. I ask the question: What is it about Hollywood that is so great that most of the young and famous are taking drugs? Why aren't these actors so content with their lives of money, fame and beauty that it leads them down a path of opportunity instead of addiction, partying and death. Why isn't this life satisfying? Hollywood promotes a destructive lifestyle. Fame is short lived and for the actor the addiction of fame and often substance stems from a self-entitlement, self-centered purpose and this purpose is NEVER satisfying. Fame and fortune are the recipe for a lonely and ungratifying life. Once you have money and fame what is left to achieve is this is the goal? There is always a need of getting it back, getting more of it and using the accolades of fans for ones self-esteem. This is a false sense of self. To search for the praise of others to teach us our own worth never satisfies the uncontent soul. Once the height of praise from peers has left us we cry for more. Like a drug. And then it is drugs we turn to, because the taste of fame is so good and so temporary that those who taste it want to dull the pain of not having their chosen self-esteem. Where are those in the entertainment industry to decry the choices of these young and rich stars? Why do we have to watch them travel down this road of destruction? Why is it that money and fame aren't enough for these people? Is it really because they can, that they do? I think it is because doing ANYTHING for MONEY and FAME is a compromise of who we are and it drags us to a sinking ship of depression that is only overcome artificially. And money and fame ain't that great. Fame leads one to believe they are invincible. Money leads us to a self-important attitude, put the two together and the formula is often a predictor of irrational and rationalized behavior.
There are people in our society who deserve our admiration. It isn't the rich and famous. Not even Oprah with her billions deserves our accolades of applause. There are those who serve others instead of self who are deserving of our admiration. The roar of the crowd that we so often seek is a fickle crowd, changing with the fresh and the new. Only a life dedicated to family and selflessness is a life of satisfaction. Someone once said that few people have ever been on their death beds looking back at life wishing they had spent more time at the office.
And so this 28 year old young man is dead. We don't know why and we can only speculate. I was not a huge Heath Ledger fan, but this disturbs me nonetheless. I have watched those I love on the road to self-destruction and it is painful and I feel helpless. The lesson we learn from these young, rich stars is that money and fame are temporary so don't set your heart on these things. They will fail you. I don't mean to be preachy especially in my political blog, but my other one is supposed to be HAPPY, so be patient political junkies I will rant later, but for now this is on my mind.
What we value in life is often a determiner of what we may become. Rich we may be, famous we may become, but in the long run it may be the very thing that destroys us if these things are achieved by not just compromising our values, but shoving them down so deep we can no longer find them. Then suddenly what we value is of no worth to the soul and we are lost. To me this is the problem with our society. What we value is really of no value. And that is depressing. So the drug companies keep making artificial happiness and we keep taking it and the cycle continues. This may sound simplistic and too black and white. So be it. To me it is simple. It is also true. Of course the truth pill is the hardest to swallow.